We've got a kid on "lock down" right now. Facebook account closed down. Netbook and iPod gone. 100% adult supervision. She's at work with dad right now. All over a boy that she rarely sees. It's not really the boy though. If it was, she could "date" him (middle school dating = calling yourself boyfriend/girlfriend, communicating via social media, writing each other notes, and hugging and possibly kissing in the school hallways), break up in two weeks, and move on. No big deal.
But it's the lying and deceitfulness. We (parents and kid together) had discussed this young man and agreed that he is a little teen "player" whose goal it is to get as many girls fighting over him as possible by any means necessary, including trying to get her best friend to sneak out of the house to make out with him at the movies. It's the telling us to our faces that nothing is going on while in reality she is doing everything she can to ensure that this boy is her "boyfriend" without us knowing.
And it's the crazy lying too. The kind of lying that is so puzzling you have no idea how to response.
Does she . . . will she understand how much we truly love her and value her and want to see her value herself? How it breaks our hearts to think that she would sell out herself and her family for the fleeting attention of a guy who cares nothing for her. At 12, is it too early for her to understand that loser guys can smell that vulnerability from 10 miles away?
I pray one day she will. One day soon. Until then, lots of extra Mama and Daddy time is in order.
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